You are not broken....
But do you feel like your body is broken and not worthy?
Does your body ache and you feel like it's a fight just to get out the door?
Are you mentally beating yourself up?
Did you answer, "Yes." That's ok. I know this feeling. I have been there. The internal battle between your mind and your body is terrifying. But it is going to be ok.
MY BROKEN STORY
I was always a active, as a kid I played sports and as I got older started going to the gym and I loved it. Then it changed. I became a personal trainer and I started to develop a fear of judgement. A fear of walking into a room and not being what people expected me to be. I feared letting them down, I feared letting myself down.
As my fear took hold of me I struggle to train in the gym anymore. I felt like everyone was watching me. Watching me struggle to master my pull ups. Watching me reach failure. It slowly consumed me and the more it consumed me the more I adapted my workouts so no one would see me. I tried to become small, unnoticeable.
Then I got injured. And this made me feel weak. I couldn’t even lift my own arm because of the pain. So I stopped. I stopped everything. My training Stopped. Because I was injured I worked less and had no money. That’s when my eating changed. I hit bottom. I felt shit, I thought I looked shit. I was know in more than just physical pain.
I couldn’t see a way out. I was lost in the ebis between what I used to be and what I currently was. All I knew for certain was……. This wasn't me!
But how do I change things. My body ached all over. I had no money for fancy health foods and emotionally I was beyond strung out. How do I make change when I feel I have nothing to give to myself.
HOW I WENT FROM BROKEN TO BADASS
Now I wont lie it took me some time to work through this and I only share this story in the hope that it may act as a catylist for anyone out there who may be feeling the same. But eventually I realised I could begin my own change with out any money or confidence. All I had to do was start.
So I walked… my legs weren’t broken so I used them. Starting so simple and so small. See I used to always get caught up in where I had been…. “I used to be able to Squat ….. why can’t I do that now” I knew logically I had to bring myself back into training slowly but my ego didn’t want to let me. I always felt the urge to punish myself, over train. Under eat.
This was when I realised I had to change my MINDSET. I was never going to progress if I kept focusing on what I couldn't do. What really mattered was what I could do.
I began shopping in the ugly fruit section. You know the one I mean. The bit with all the odd shapes and sized fruit and veg. And I became relentless. I was determined to get better!
MY RESULTS..... EPIC BADASS
I did it I made it back. I got back to working on my Chin Ups. Actually I made it even further then that because I now knew that it was possible, that I was capable of coming back and becoming even better then before. I had created my own comeback tour!
And you can to because t doesn’t matter where you have been and what you have done. It matters what you choose to do with it! It matters what you do today!
YOU HAVE A CHOICE
Change or stay the same?
If you want Change here is what you can do.
1. Create a Mindset Shift, be real with yourself and be grateful for what you have.
2. Start small and simple. Move regularly and eat clean food.
3. Be consistent. Keep going because not matter how small the change. It is progress!
4. Reach out and give me a call. Let me help you to create your own comeback tour.
Today can be the first day of your comeback tour.
Call (02)4472 4752 or make a enquiry today!
There is no goal worth sacrificing your body’s health!
So let me share something it has taken 10 years as a personal trainer and coach to master.
There is no goal worth sacrificing your body’s health for!
Often goals are set with a completion date in mind. Eg. birthday, wedding some sort of event. Which is fine, it is actually good we need to be held accountable. But what is really going on here? Are you chasing a date or a feeling of approval from your peers. Have you considered the affect your goal will have on your body's health, both physically and mentally or the influence your daily life on this goal? Kids,work, setbacks etc. My guess is not really.
If we attach our success or happiness to a set of numbers on the scales. We are bound to be miserable and unhealthy. Let me give you an example….
A few years ago… I wanted to be 59kg & a particular thigh measurement for my 21st Birthday. (Yes, My body issue within myself has always been my upper thigh.) This was going to be my birthday present to myself. I rationalised this goal with knowing that at 57kg I knew I looked to skinny/ gaut. Therefore I was being “realistic”. I wanted to be a strong 59kg.
I enlisted the help of a friend of mine who was a trainer not really filling them in on the weight side. I also did one kick-boxing session per week and trained myself the rest of the time.
One particular day I was due to train with my friend and I was running early so I thought I would quickly go jump on the scales to suss out where I was at. I jumped on the scales and I was 60.6kg. So… determined as hell jumped off the scales and jumped on the treadmill to warm up while waiting for my friend to arrive.
What happened next I will never forget and I believe was a catalyst in shaping me into the trainer I am today.
My friend arrived and asked me how I was doing. In response I said “Good, Just want to get stuck in so I can smash this 600g off me!” With that my friend stopped the treadmill and said. “You got ta be kidding me Kate! I am not training you today” I asked why and he said “Really? What would you say to one of your clients if they said that to you?”
And just like that I had become that person willing to disregard my own health for a goal. For an idea that a certain weight would make me happy, fulfilled. No matter the cost.
I will be forever grateful to my friend as they showed me how ridiculous I was being. They made me aware of my behaviour. I had been over training, under eating and was well down the path of heading for an injury. This day was the beginning of a journey about respect for my body. And trust me it hasn't been easy and there have been many setbacks and hurdles. But your body is and will always be your most valuable possession you have. So treat it like that
Nothing is worth sacrificing your body’s health. I know what your about to say…. But Kate I don’t do that. Well that is exactly what I used to think.
Let me ask you this, Have you
Eaten in an excessive calorie deficit (1200 or below)
Ignored your body when its hurting
Push yourself to the point of vomiting, just to prove your worth.
Avoided hanging out with friends just to maintain a restrictive diet
Cut out whole food groups
Compromise your immune system by training when you should really be resting
Gone back to training to soon after an injury
Unfortunately I am sure that you are going to say yes to at least half of these. And that is ok. I personally can say the same. My point is that this behavior isn’t healthy. And if your goal asks you to compromise your long term health then it isn’t a well thought out goal. Go back to the drawing board, try again. Otherwise you are setting yourself up for injury and failure.
Have long term body respect when setting goals. Be grateful that you have a functioning body and work with it. Rather than against it. Seek help when needed.
If you are struggling with a goal. Flick me an email. I would be happy to help. firstname.lastname@example.org
Are you Surviving or Thriving? (My Journey) 13/12/18
This workout singlet arrived in just the nick of time!!!
As most of you know I am about to set of on a trip. But this is a little more than just a normal holiday. I will be going back to my roots. To where a big part of my family comes from. Scandinavia!
Like any trip our tickets were booked 7 plus months ago. But in all honesty this is a journey and it really started many years ago. I have always wanted to go and see where my family came from. But it was two weeks before my 25th birthday that this journey really began. As my birthday approached, I became more and more disappointed in myself.
I had achieved so little of what I had set out to do by the time I was 25.... Actually I hadn't achieved any of it. This broke my heart as I have always seen myself as someone who followed through on my promises and goals. That was when I realized I have spent the last few years focusing on surviving rather than thriving!
I had been living my life always more concerned for others than myself.
In saying all of this I do not mean I had not achieved anything. I had achieved many things just not what I had planned or expected. I felt like the second I realized this, things began to change. I began to stop trying to please everyone. THEN MY LIFE REALLY STARTED TO SHIFT!
In the years that followed I got married and built a house. I even negotiated some terms with my husband about travelling to Scandinavia. Which if anyone knows my husband they will understand what a big deal this is.
And then this year began. And Oh Boy, it has been a big one! I have had to address feeling of guilt and the fear of not being in full control of my business while I am out of the country. Talk about a roller coaster. But what I have learnt has been worth every second of anxiety and stress.
My business is now so much more dynamic and capable then is has ever been. I still have fear and guilt but I m aware and own it and that makes it a hell of a lot less stressful.
So now as the physical journey is about to begin in just a matter of days. I am taking the opportunity to reflect look back and see how much I have changed in my own personal path of growth. I am a Star Gazer, Day Dreamer& Magic Seeker. I AM CHOOSING TO THRIVE!
But now I wish to ask you to do the same. Look back and reflect.
ARE YOU SURVIVING OR THRIVING?
Are you acknowledging where you are and what needs to change to get you to where you want to be? In the fitness industry I hear day in and day out that people want to lose weight, etc. But do you openly acknowledge and accept your responsibility in your own results? Do you know what your part/role is in your own journey?
#BayAcivePT #PersonalTraining #SurviveorThrive #MyJourney
In a world that has become so hate driven, why wouldn’t we celebrate LOVE when we get a chance?
I have seen so many posts about not celebrating Valentine's Day, because it is commercialized etc. I have seen posts saying "you should love your partner everyday" which is true but how often do we get court up in our own lives whether it be work or children and we forget all those who LOVE us, stand by us?
In this world were crime, bulling and suicide is on the rise what is the harm in a day that allows you to shoe how much you care not just for your husband, wife, girlfriend or boyfriend but also your friends and your children. Why not use this day for father's to teach their daughters that they should be treated like a Queen not as a object. Why don't we use this day to teach the young men of today that relationships are about more than sex.
I think we should use Valentine's Day as a opportunity to show our family , loved ones and ourselves that the simple pleasure of trust, love and respect. Love does exist it just needs some encouragement. It doesn't mean you have to buy presents but show your love and appreciation for yourself and those around you. Show up, be present, switch your phone off.
What do you think?
Dis you celebrate your love for someone on Valentine's day?
How do you show your friends and family you love them?
How do you show yourself love?